Wrong Reasons To Get Married
Yesterday, I was listening to a radio talk show and a woman called in and was crying profusely. She has been married for years now but no issue yet. She just discovered recently that her husband cheated on her with another. He had a child with another without her wife knowing about it. She said her husband doesn’t regard her and that he treats her anyhow. It hurts and it’s a painful.
Recently, I shared a story of a woman that was given 3 months ultimatum to either conceive of a baby boy or pack. If not for God’s timely intervention, she would have been sent packing because she has no issue.
Almost everyday, people are getting married but for the wrong reasons little wonder why many marriages are meeting their unfortunate end when those reasons either cease to exist or are not coming forth.
I always advise people to either ask or try to find out from their partners through their conversations why he’s or she’s getting married to them because the reason or reasons why someone get married to you will, to a large extent, determine their approach to you, how they will relate with and to you in the marriage.
What I want to do in this article is to show you the wrong reasons to get married and then, of course, the right reasons to be married.
Wrong reasons to get married..
- To have children
When a man gets married to you as a woman solely for children, especially boys that will carry on his name, and you are unable to give him a child or a boy, just like the cases of the two women above, he may discard you, sent you packing or begin to maltreat you.
Don’t get married to a man that values children more than you. Children are good and wonderful but they shouldn’t be the primary reason for marriage.
Love is wonderful, you know those butterfly feelings in your tummy. As wonderful as love is, it’s not enough reasons to get married because love is not enough. However, you shouldn’t marry someone you don’t love or someone that doesn’t love you too but love shouldn’t be the only reason you are getting married.
A lot of ladies are on this table. In fact some of them have clearly stated that they cannot marry a man that doesn’t earns below certain amount of money per month. Money is good. It makes life easy and pleasant but it shouldn’t be your sole purpose for getting married.
Things change. You may get married to a rich and then things happen and he’s back to square one. Nobody is praying for that but let’s be realistic. You may also get married to someone that doesn’t have enough and then things happen and boom, he will blow.
I’m not asking you to marry a poor man but money shouldn’t be your first consideration for marriage, that’s my point.
A lot of men are on this table. They want to marry because of how beautiful, naturally endowed a lady is. Any lady that’s not fully breasted and hipped and isn’t beautiful doesn’t cross their eyes. Looks changes. The body will wrinkle someday, what will happen then?
Some ladies too are on this table. They wanna marry tall, dark and thick six packed and handsome men. Well, looks are great but they should not be your first priority.
Both guys and ladies are on this table. That’s their number one reason for marriage. As a matter of fact, they have learned as many sex styles and positions as possible waiting to get married. Sex is great, really great but when you are you fully and sexually satisfied with what next?
Status, peer pressure, loneliness, pity, etc., are all wrong reasons to get married.
Right Reasons To Get Married
The number one reason you should get married to anyone at all is that you guys are compatible, compatible in your belief system, values, hobbies, interests, purpose, dreams, visions, personality, even genotype etc.
Do you know that incompatibility is the leading cause of divorce in marriage? I was shocked to discover that recently. Two people can never walk and flow together except their is an agreement. So, compatibility should be your first priority.
Companionship should be the second reason for marriage. When Adam was created, he was alone. Consequently, God created a woman compatible with him.
When you marry because you want someone to spend your life and your moments with, I tell you that not having children will not matter much because it’s the person’s company you want more.
- To fulfill destiny Fulfilling destiny should be another reason to marry. Don’t just only marry for fun, marry to fulfill destiny. The primary reason God created Eve was because Adam was alone in the assignment he was given, so Eve was created to help him. Marry someone you will fulfill destiny together with.
These are the 3 most important reasons you should get married, compatibility, companionship and destiny fulfillment. I tell you, your marriage will be heaven on earth!