10 Rules of Courtship And Pre-marital Relationship For Every Young Christian
Christian courtship is the time leading up to a wedding or marriage when a Christian brother and sister discuss a variety of topics to discover if they share the same vision, hope, and aspirations for their marriage. According to Proverbs 22:18,
“Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord”
During a courtship, though, a couple or group gets to know each other and determines whether or not to marry. Courting entails activities such as dating, in which couples or groups participate in a shared activity (e.g., a meal or movie). Courting can also take place without having to meet in person, thanks to current technology. Here are 10 rules every Christian youth should know about courtship
1. Be a man/ woman
Never start a relationship when you’re not yet a man. To be a man means in all front- physically, spiritually, financially, socially, psychologically. At least, a man should rent 2 rooms and have a job that will generate some money for him. A woman should also ensure she’s having her kitchen utensils and materials. It makes her a woman who is ready for marriage.
2. Know your purpose in life.
Why do you want to marry that particular sister or brother. What is your aspirations in life? Will she support your dreams? Because two cannot walk together except they agree.
3. Have a timeline for when you want to marry.
There is nothing that make relationship bored than long courtship. Don’t say ,well ,let’s see what will happen and keep a sister for years. Ensure you don’t waste anybody’s time indefinitely.
4. Until a man say he want to marry you, you’re just like any other sister.
Brothers, until you take a step, nothing happen. Nothing changes until you move to marriage committee. Even though you are serving God together, the man has to propose before anything happen. Men are not shy when they’re ready to propose.
5. Never give the privileges of marriage in a premarital relationship.
Before marriage, you should not be involved in sexual intercourse,kissing, body touch,cooking food, washing clothes. It is sin to do that but if you want to give him food, you can cook from your house during engagement.
6. Never operate a relationship in secrecy
Your marriage intention should not be hidden from your spiritual parents. Every secret relationship has evil intention hidden undertone and those involved has evil mind.
Purposes are established where there’s proper counsel. Discuss your marriage with your pastor for counsel and safety. Proverbs 15:22;24:6
7. Don’t broadcast your courtship or engagement immediately.
Brothers, when you propose, give the sister some time to go and pray and be convince. Don’t be in a hurry to received a Yes answer. The public should not be aware that you’re proposing or in courtship, because public proposals and courtships end in secret. Don’t allow people to put you under pressure and also don’t manage courtship that you know that two of you are not good to go to the alter.
9. Never cohabit with a man before marriage.
Nothing is as useless as cohabitation. If you like, give birth to 10 children for him. The truth of the matter is that, you’re not married. It is a sin to cohabit and one reason why some ladies cohabit is because they want to know the man they want to marry. Some would want to protect their from another woman. Whichever way, it is very sinful. Unfortunately, it causes devaluation of womanhood and such a lady may not be married again.
10. Reemphasize your eye from containers but look for a good content.
Look for a wife/husband that has character and not for a beautiful Queen or handsome Prince you’ll be teaching characters. An ideal wife or husband is known by character and not looks. Tall,fair,dark,open teeth,handsome, beautiful, riches,good family background, etc are deceitful but godliness is of great gain.
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