Apostle Joshua Selman sent an important message to ladies in the church about the kind of man they should marry and the ones they should avoid. He termed it a 21st-century world compliant as he delivered his sermon.
He revealed that their life partner must be able to submit to an earthly authority for mentorship, for building, for correction. There are many families in trouble today because there is no authority figure over the life of the husband, there is no man that can call him and say “No, no, what you are doing is wrong.” He can beat the wife and almost kill her. He’s the god of himself. “Never marry a man who does not have a pastor, a mentor, a spiritual authority, an elderly person. There must be a personality that he has covenanted to listen to,” he said.
He then revealed that no matter how wrong a man and a woman are, if there is someone for them to listen to, then they are still safe. He said that he has had the privilege of talking with a lot of couples. He said that he remembered one couple who fought in Kaduna. It was a brutal fight. The police had to come for the husband and wife and they are Christians. At the end of that counseling, he said that simply because they were people who understood submission, at the end of it, the man was hugging his wife as if he never slapped her. He said that as far as he knows, things are still working.
“Sisters, please hear me in the name of Jesus, the 21st century has changed things,” he said. For some of us, this is the dilemma that our fathers came into. They had been beating our mothers for many years. There are some of us, if there was an authority figure, the divorce would not have happened. He said that the man decides he’s the god of the family, the day he decides to descend upon the family with wrath, everybody’s in trouble.
He then revealed that sisters should marry the man that must be able to show them clearly what authority figure is in his life. He said that if a man comes to ask a lady out and says he wants to marry her and she says that “okay, whatever it is, this is an authority figure in my life and I would like you to see him,” the man will run away because he doesn’t plan to be faithful and he doesn’t want anything that will tie him too much, he wants an opportunity to still be doing runs at the side.
Finally, he said that there is a disorder in the body of Christ because everybody is doing anything, that’s why you can find one brother with 20 girlfriends scattered all around, and they never know themselves. The brother could also be leading worship and could also be a pastor in charge of a church.