DO THEY FIT YOUR TOMORROW?
TRAVIS GREENE
The thing about not being unequally yoked when it comes to a relationship is that you need to make sure that the person you intend to marry is not just fit for where you are today but that they are a good fit for your tomorrow because you evolve as a person. The person you were in love with at age 14, if you had listened to your 14-year-old self you would be in trouble right now cause you’ve probably ran into that person at the Mall after you grew older and you thanked God for not listening to your 14-year-old self.
It is the same with where you are right now and as such you need spiritual maturity to have a glimpse into your future enough to know that the person you intend to marry may not be fit for where you are headed. You can know that they aren’t fit for you tomorrow by the things they do, for instance, it could be that they like poverty a little too much or that they enjoy drama a little too much. You know yourself, you then have to be thinking forward to know that such a person isn’t fit for your tomorrow.
For me there was this lady years ago, great lady, beautiful, intelligent but there was just one thing. I was in my early twenties and we both attended the same Church, our Church was a small storefront Church and whenever we went to church, I would sing, play the keyboard and then at the close of service I would go about greeting people, checking up on them, engaging them in conversations, encourage and hug them. I still do these things today. This lady would see me do that and will straight away have a breakdown because of that. I’ll ask if she was okay and she would say “I just can’t believe you are hugging so many people, do you have to hug them every week?”
That relationship ended and it wasn’t because of her looks, it was her insecurities that made her unfit not for my present at the time but for the future, I’m in right now because if she couldn’t understand me greeting 20 people in that small Church, she would have been stressed out about me greeting 200 people, she probably would have had a nervous breakdown watching me greet 2000 people and maybe lost her mind watching me greet 20,000 people.
When my wife and I started dating, I saw that she wasn’t affected by me being casual and friendly with other people because she had enough confidence and knew that I didn’t have to be in her face 24 hours for her to know that I am for her and that she is the only one on my mind. That made her qualified for my future. I tell this to single people, one way to know if you and a person are equally yoked is that they match and are fit for where you are headed which means you must first know where you are headed so as to know if they fit into your future.
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