Here are the top facts about your wife that you really must know.
I imagine you may use the word “magical” to characterize that period. You talked for hours, lost in each other’s words (and maybe gaze). Your attention span was inadequate. There simply isn’t enough information out there on them to satisfy your curiosity.
It was the first night of our marriage, and my wife and I sat together for what seemed like forever. I don’t remember the specifics of the discussion, but I do remember that I didn’t want to go. The discussion was really natural, and I vowed to visit her again soon so we could pick up where we left off.
Having our plights recognized is a universal desire. We long for a partner who will put forth the effort to fully “get us.” We hope that our significant other will pay close attention to our words and be moved by them. This, more than anything else, exemplifies what it means to have genuine fellowship with one another.
In my 10 years of specialized training as a Marriage Counselor, I have had the privilege of working with thousands of couples. I’ve spent the better part of a decade collecting anecdotal data on what wives would like their husbands to know. Here are a handful of the “secrets” I’ve been keeping from you:
Before everything else, show interest in and ask her opinion.
In his letter to the Galatians, James writes, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to talk, and slow to become angry.” Absolutely, this is correct. Additionally, it is important for both sexes to take an interest in and discuss the opinions of their partners. In their opinion, what factors are most crucial? Invest time in getting to know them and keeping an eye on how they react to your affection.
Secondly, you should treat her as if she were an entirely unique person.
The more we listen to our partner, the more we will begin to recognize his or her uniqueness. They do not contribute to our humanity but rather separate from it. They want to be treated as unique human beings with their own set of experiences, perspectives, and priorities. Give your partner respect while you listen to them. Recognize their input and act upon it.
Trust her, that’s the third piece of advice.
Reading material regarding romantic relationships is popular among women. They invest time and money into learning as much as can about marriage via books and the internet, and they actively seek out opportunities for greater closeness. They are therefore reliable in marital difficulties. They hope to be taken seriously when discussing marital and family concerns, and they usually do.
And finally, her anguish is a plea for assistance.
Her anguish is a call for development and fellowship. Males should pay attention when females are speaking. If you don’t give her a chance to open up to you, she may close her heart completely, and it may stay that way for a very long time. Pay attention to her anguish and wrath and attempt to figure out what she’s trying to tell you. She wouldn’t be mad at you if she didn’t care about you.
At long last, you may sit down and apologize from a place of genuine regret.
She requires tangible evidence of your concern. Tell her you’re sorry for what you did to harm her. She must hear you say, “I’m sorry,” and understand that you mean it. Her broken heart can only mend if you allow yourself to be at peace with your regret for as long as it takes. For her to trust the improvements you’ve made, she must see evidence of true contrition and penitence.