I WANT TO MARRY, BUT I EARN SO LITTLE…

For all the single men:

Yesterday after I had posted an article addressing the single ladies, I decided to read a few comments people wrote. While reading I stumbled on a post where a young man said that he wishes to marry but earns only N17,000. I saw his honesty and I want to sympathize with him. Today I would like to address all the single men that want to marry but earn much less for now.

Dear single men, if you wish to marry that’s a very good thing. The goodness that marriage brings is fantastic. However, marriage is a call to more responsibilities. That’s why those who wish to marry should have some level of financial income. A jobless man or someone who can barely feed himself shouldn’t marry for now. That will be unwise.

Without wanting to make you feel bad, take or leave it, the marital journey requires money. When you marry you will be planning for at least two extra mouths, that is, your wife and the baby that will be added to your young family within the next one year. Honestly, with a monthly income of N17,000 that salary can’t take care of you let alone adding an extra mouth. I advise you work harder and see how you could augment your personal income.

Going by the current economic realities in Nigeria, I advise that any single man who wishes to marry should have at least a take home income of N50,000 and that the woman he wishes to marry should be working and supporting financially. Otherwise, it’s going to be very hard on them. Bros, think about the baby food, pampers, diapers, house rent, utility bills, just to mention a few. Please don’t marry thinking that your working wife should take upon herself your responsibilities as a husband. She is coming to partner you. Not the other way round.

Dear single man, if you can barely feed yourself, please drop the idea of marriage for now and go make more money first. God doesn’t force us to marry when we are not financially capable. Nobody else should force us to marry when we are not financially ready because when the heat of life is turned on, nobody will be there to bear it with you. I know some people will advise you to go ahead and marry with that kind of financial income. But that is unwise because marriage is a call to more responsibilities.

These days, I am aware of ladies who support their fiancés all through their dating and courtship periods. That’s great. I encourage such ladies to continue that good work. Honestly, some guys wouldn’t have found their feet in life if not for the great ladies God sent their way. As sweet as that experience is, however, it’s not the order of the day for every single man in the Nigerian society where most ladies are not willing to support or start life with a man from the scratch.

Dear single men, here is the bitter truth: over 80% of ladies won’t want to settle down in marriage with a man who earns less than N100,000 as a monthly salary let alone someone who is earning N17,000 monthly. Friends, if you are earning less than N50,000, I advise you pause on your marriage dream for now and go work harder and trust God to help you augment your personal income (except you marrying a working lady who is willing to help ortherwise N17,000 won’t go anywhere in these times. I was there before. That’s my $1 million dollars advice. Wisdom is profitable to direct.

I pray for all the single men today: “The God of Heaven will open new doors of financial favour for you the remainder of this year in Jesus name!” Many thanks for reading, commenting, liking and sharing.

See you at the top!

Your friend,

Coach Joshua

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