How do you discipline your children when they do wrong? I have seen parents, whose methods of discipline are on the verge of becoming child abuse, if we cannot already call it that. But that kind of discipline is the wrong kind to give your child.
Kenneth Copeland has said that as a parent, you shouldn’t instill any form of fear in your children, as fear is the devil’s weapon. However, you should instill love in them.
So how can you discipline your children without making them afraid of you? Does this mean you should not give them any form of physical punishment? Of course not!
If you properly explain to your child the wrong that he did before you punish him, isn’t that a way of punishing him with love? The child will understand that you’re not beating him because you hate him, but because he did wrong. If you vary between physical discipline and a proper heart to heart conversation, isn’t that another way to discipline with love?
Don’t forget to still accept them after the punishment. It is easy for parents to push their children away after they make mistakes, leading to their child developing a fear for them. But if you show them you still love them after you’re done with the punishment, they will not grow up with a mindset of fear.
Understand that all children are not the same. The method you used to raise one child might not work with another child. You have to properly understand your different children, and how to discipline each of them. And try to be fair to each of them.
If your children grow up with fear, it will affect their self esteem and confidence when they grow older. They will be scared to take chances that will put them ahead in life. Don’t do this to your children.
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