Lysa TerKeurst has filed for divorce after trying hard to save her marriage. Despite the pain, she has stayed “firm” in her faith.
Lysa TerKeurst, a best-selling author, and her husband Art have decided to end their nearly 30-year marriage because Art “chose patterns of behavior that dishonor God and the biblical covenant of marriage.”
TerKeurst posted the news on social media on Saturday. She is the founder of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of several New York Times bestsellers, such as It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and Forgiving What You Can’t Forget.
The 52-year-old woman said that even though she and her husband renewed their marriage vows three years ago after a “painful separation,” he has since “broken those vows.”
“Knowing that he broke those promises broke my heart,” she wrote.
“Over the past few years, I have worked very hard to not only save my marriage but also to make it through the destruction that comes from one partner lying to the other all the time.” It’s horrible and heartbreaking to constantly worry about the bad decisions of someone you care about. I had to learn the hard way that there is a big difference between making mistakes (which we all do) and making choices that dishonor God and the biblical covenant of marriage.
TerKeust, who has five kids, said that she thinks the “smartest (and hardest) choice I can make is to stop trying to save my 29-year marriage and instead accept reality.”
“There is clear biblical support for my decision to end this marriage,” she wrote, “but I choose to keep most of the details private out of respect for our children and grandchildren and to give my family and me space and privacy to continue to heal.”
In 2017, TerKeurst said she was going to get a divorce from her husband because he had cheated on her and had problems with drugs. In an interview with The Christian Post, she said that the time in her life was “excruciatingly painful.” But after working on their marriage for a little more than a year, they renewed their vows.
At the time, TerKeurst told CP that they wanted to fight for their marriage even though it was “so, so hard.”
“And we want to give it the time it needs to rebuild trust, which takes an incredibly long time,” she said.
TerKeurst has been open about the emotional turmoil she went through because of her husband’s actions, as well as God’s continued presence in her life, over the years.
She told CP in the past that she tries to share the perspectives and life lessons she’s learned to show how faithful God has been “even in the midst of really deep heartbreak.”
In an interview for 2021, she said, “I would just tell anyone going through stuff that there’s someone else who needs to hear your story.” ” I think everyone has life lessons, proof of how reliable God is, and experiences… And I think when we tell our stories, it helps other people a lot if we focus on these things instead of the details of how we were hurt.
But over the years, she never told anyone about her situation. And in her most recent post, the speaker and author said that there is “clear biblical justification for my decision to end this marriage,” but she is still keeping most of the details private out of respect for the couple’s children and grandchildren and “to give space and privacy for my family and me to continue to heal.”
“It’s hard to face a future that doesn’t look anything like what I prayed for over and over again,” she wrote.
“This is a fact that I don’t like, but the truth is that repairing relationships doesn’t always work.” I’ve cried and felt sad about this, and I’ve waited for years hoping that this wasn’t our story. But forgiveness always works, even when restoration doesn’t.
Even though she was going through a hard time, the leader of the ministry said, “I’ve never been more thankful for what God has done in my heart through the power of forgiveness to make it whole again.”
“I could die from bitterness and resentment.” Luckily, though, that’s not where I am. “My heart is getting better with time, prayer, and a lot of counseling,” she wrote.
“Sometimes, God restoring our relationships is the answer to our prayers and the result of all the work we’ve done,” TerKeurst said at the end of her post. “Sometimes He saves us from bad relationships. I don’t know why things sometimes turn out the way they do in my story. But I’m strong in my faith and trust God every step of the way. “My family and I are grateful for your prayers and kindness.”
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