Pastor, If I had sxx with my wife before we got married, will I have problems in my marriage?

“Pastor, if I had sxx with my wife before we got married, will I have problems in my marriage?”

I’ve avoided this topic for long, but it seems many couples are living in bondage because of this man made philosophy.

Let me begin by saying, “every marriage has problems, but the spiritual maturity of the two parties involved will grossly determine how well the marriage will run”.

Will you have problems in your marriage? Yes! Will the problems be a result of sleeping with your wife before you got married? This depends on if you don’t repent, genuinely. Let’s read Revelations 2:20-23:

Revelation 2:
20 Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols.
21 And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not. 22 Behold, I will cast her into a bed, and them that commit adultery with her into great tribulation, except they repent of their deeds.
23 And I will kill her children with death; and all the churches shall know that I am he which searcheth the reins and hearts: and I will give unto every one of you according to your works.

Did you notice verse 21 and 22? God gave her space to repent of her fornication. If she doesn’t repent, He will stir up great problems in her life, and these problems can lead to the death and destruction of the things that concerns her, except she repents.

So if you’re having problems in your marriage “because you both had sex before marriage”, chances are that those problems were caused by your unrepentance. Some couples even pretend like nothing is wrong with what they did and foolishly present other matters to God in prayer. How do you even pray to a God you’re not in good terms with? Please stop making the devil take advantage of your foolishness.

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Now let me sound a warning to those who were able to hang on till they got married. Thank God for your life, but don’t use your success to stigmatize those who couldn’t. Pride is worse than any sin I can think of, and that’s what you display anytime you talk like that. And this pride can destroy your marriage if you don’t caution yourself.

I’ve heard preachers say all kinds of disheartening things just to steer people away from having sex before marriage. And I can tell that many of those preachings were not inspired by the Lord, they over-exagerrate their communications. This subject should only be communicated in love, not force. The more you preach it wrongly, the more people engage in it. Shouldn’t that send a message?

Some preachers don’t even believe that anything can be done to remedy that situation. But really, is the blood of Jesus that weak and selective? Or is marriage so strong that the blood of Jesus cannot fix marital issues?

The challenges in your marriage is not because you had sex before marriage. And if you think it is, then repent of your sins.

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The reason why you’ve not been able to get pregnant isn’t because you aborted a baby before marriage. And if you think that’s the reason, repent!

Haven’t you read your Bible? There’s no more condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, for the law of the Spirit of life in Christ has made us free from the law of sin and death.

So there’s a law of sin and death, which is activated the moment you sin. This law ensures that death begins to work in every department of your life. One sin will introduce death to your job, business, family, relationship, and everything else until it has destroyed you. Not just sexual sin, any sin at all.

When Jesus carried the sin of the world, death began to work in Him until He actually died and went to Hell. All the work he had done got under attack, his disciples went into hiding.

But not for long, the law of the Spirit of life wouldn’t let its property stay in hell or be condemned. It went straight to hell, quickened Jesus to collect the dominion that Satan stole, raised him from the dead, and gave him a glorified body.

Who gave birth to a child is what determines the law that works in that child. When man gives birth to a child, that child is born into sin until the child is matured enough to receive Jesus. Jesus was not born of man, he was born of the Spirit, so he was not born into sin as every other man.

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When he carried the sin of the world, the law of sin and death could take him to hell, but it couldn’t keep him there. A greater law was working in him.

When you give your life to Christ, something happens to your birth status, you become born of the Spirit. So the law of the spirit of life begins to work in you.

When you sin, the law of sin and death is activated. And when you repent, the law of the Spirit of life gets activated again. I know some people are excited to read this part because of their sinful ways, hmm, may God have mercy on you.

As I conclude, if you’re a victim of what I’ve shared in this message, just repent. And after you’ve repented, begin to walk in the light of God’s word. Tackle every problem that has challenged you with the word and ensure that there’s no guilt in your heart as you do this. You will succeed!

Emeka Anslem

Another warning, this message should not be taken for licentiousness. You might not be lucky enough to even get the chance to repent. And even if you get a chance to repent, how do you repent from the pregnancy or the sexually transmitted disease you may contact in the process? Don’t tempt God, neither should you play with the devil in a game he created. Be wise!

I hope this has brought deliverance to someone.

Remain ever blessed!

Source: EmekaAnslem

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