WHY HUSBANDS CHEAT AND POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS.🤔🤔

First of all I want our orientation and perception on some things to change so you can understand what I’m about to share with you.

There are some things that women/wives of this generation believes about men/husbands that is robbing us of the honey in our marriage, these lies has so much eaten deep into us that it’s making many of us fail in our duty as a wife and in turn making all our fears about men looks real or feels true.

BELOW ARE SOME OF THE LIES THAT DEVIL PLANTS INTO THE HEART OF WOMEN.

1. ALL MEN CHEATS.
2. MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS IN NATURE
3. YOU CANNOT STOP A CHEATING HUSBAND FROM CHEATING
4. IT IS IN MENS NATURE TO CHEAT
5. YOUR HUSBAND CAN LOVE YOU AND STILL CHEAT ON YOU.
6. IF HE LOVES YOU ENOUGH, HE WONT LET YOU FIND OUT, BUT THEY ALL CHEAT
7. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO FIND A MAN THAT CAN BE FAITHFUL TO ONLY ONE WOMAN

These are few of what I’ve heard and seen from from women and it’s a grave mistake that is leading many women to abandon their role in the home and making them neglect their duties. Women believe that no matter what they do for a man, if he want to cheat, he will.
The most annoying part is these lies are from the pit of hell, the devil has so much planted these lies in the heart of women that these lies are now seen as a norm. Women now believes it’s okay for a husband to cheat as far as he’s providing for her needs and he’s using protection, some will even buy him some and remind him to always use it.

Devil want to make us feel that we don’t necessarily need to go out of our way to please our husbands because the devil knows that a United family is a powerful force against him and that’s why devil keeps fighting marriages, causing broken homes, making wives lazy in their duties and pushing their husbands out to Jezebels.

There’s nothing in the nature of men that makes them cheat, God did not create men as a polygamist, there’s a reason for everything that happens in life including cheating husbands, nothing just happens, and everything that happens in life also have a solution, let’s see some of the reasons why Husbands cheat and the applicable solutions.

NB:I’m making this post NOT because I want to justify the reasons for cheating husbands or encourage them to cheat more, because a cheating husband is an headache and a real problem for a faithful wife. But I want to talk on this so that women/wives can look at these points listed below and ask yourself some questions, maybe unknowingly, you are actually the reason why your husband is cheating on you, I’m making this post so that some corrections can be made if needed to save broken/breaking homes.

1. WRONG FOUNDATION: I’ve been able to talk to a lot of couples going through rough phases in their marriage, from cheating to domestic violence and I’ve been able to understand that so many of this marriages were based on wrong foundation.
   Ask yourself these questions:
2. How did I meet my husband?
3. What led to our marriage?
4. Did he profess love to me or I professed love to him?
5. Did he propose to me or I did?
6. Was there any solid plan for our future together as couples?
7. Was the beginning great and he just suddenly changed or has he always been like that before marriage??
   If you can get answers to this question, then you’re half way in solving the problem.

The man that you met in a night club will cheat on you, because he will always go back there without you and see other girls, the man that you were cohabiting with, and the cohabiting gone wrong, you probably got pregnant and the guy was coarsed into marrying you because you don’t want to give birth out of wedlock, the foundation of that marriage is wrong and he will cheat on you because it was condition that brought you together not love.
A man that you proposed to and said yes will cheat on you and you can’t complain because he never made the proposal, you did, If you beg a man to love you, you will keep begging to keep him and that’s not the best for your marriage.

If you marry someone based on assumptions, “I think he loves me” you think? You have to be sure, marriage is not a thing you assume or think, it’s a lifetime journey so you have to be sure of what you’re going to face, if you enter into any marriage, because someone jilted on you and you’re heartbroken, or you felt you want get back at your EX, and you just married the next guy that came your way, these are some instances where the foundation laid for marriage is WRONG. And the Bible says “if the foundation is bad, what can the righteous do” I say the righteous will PRAY. If this is your own case, then all you need is to go on your knee and beg God for mercy on behalf of your marriage, because it is now your responsibility to make that marriage work, there’s no going back now, you have to find that strength in you to pray your marriage through to a glorious destination.

2. CHARACTER DEFAULT/BAD CHARACTER:
   Many wives are the ones that chased out their husbands to the street because of thier behaviour, many of us were not well groomed on how to respect our husbands, many of us are not even ready to show any little respect, we nag and shout at the slightest provocation, a man once told me he’s always scared of going home everyday after work because he doesn’t know the kind of problem he will face on arrival, imagine that?

you gossip about your husband to people, many women are so dirty that when you pass by them, you will feel the urge to throw up, you went to work since morning and you got home at night, and climbed the bed with your dirty body and without freshing up, even to change you hairstyle is a problem, and you’re still wondering why your husband is cheating? You don’t have to go far looking for solution because you’re the problem and you’re the solution. Stop the shout, stop the nag, stop the fight, stop the gossip, stop the dirty attitudes, look fresh and smell nice always, learn to RESPECT your husband for he is your head, disrespecting him simply means you’re dragging your head on the floor and the outcome is not what you will like to witness. So check yourself, if you know that this is the problem with you, then you don’t have a problem, just CHANGE, before it’s too LATE.

3. FAMILY/THIRD PARTY INFLUENCE:
   If you’re allowing strangers in the affairs of your home, then be prepared for a lot of problems, if your parents are the ones controlling your marriage, if you tell your parents about everything that happens in your marriage, then you’re creating problems for yourself, no man will take that from you, you have to stop being a child and grow up, you’re now a woman, a wife, you are in control of your life now not your parents any longer, you have to learn to take decisions all by yourself without asking mum and dad all the time, you don’t have to tell your friends about what your husband told you as a secret, it should be between the two of you. Be careful who you talk to, in this era, friends now take their friends husbands, and if you check well, the friend knows how rich your husband is, how your husband is taking care of you, the contract he’s working on, simply everything about your marriage, that’s very wrong so if you’re this type, make the needed corrections and make sure your husband sees the changes.
   Sometimes it may be the circle of friends your husband is moving with, if you noticed his behaviour has changed since he started moving with someone or some group of new friends, find a way to cut the bridge, talk to him about the changes you’ve noticed and settle the rest on your knees in prayer.
4. SPIRITUAL SICKNESS:
   If God is not involved in your marriage, then there will be trouble in your paradise, if you don’t pray together as a couple, then anything can happen, “a couple that prays together stays together” prayer is a powerful bond, “where 2/3 are gathered in my name, I’ll be in the midst of them” If you pray together and God is invited to your midst, there’s no way it will be easy for him to cheat, because praying together works on him more than you can imagine.

Men are known to be weak in that aspect but women are not supposed to, learn how to pray for him, with him, for your marriage, some husbands didn’t want to cheat, but they are spiritually attacked, many men finds themselves cheating and If you ask them why? They don’t have any reason, they have been kayamatised, many of these side chicks go extra miles in getting your husband to their sides, they can do charms if he’s proofing stubborn but If you’re the prayerful wife, charms will not work on your husband, learn to pray for your husband, find ways to make him join once in a while, if he’s too tired, just pray for him as he sleeps, lay your hands on him and pray for him, even if he’s not saying anything, alot will be going through his mind and will be changing alot than you can imagine.

Build your marriage on the solid Rock of GOD. Don’t wait until side chicks charm you too, and don’t allow any Jezebel outside eat the fruit of your labour. Take charge of your home, you have the power to.

5. SEXUAL STARVATION:
   If your husband is not sexually satisfied at home, then be ready to battle alot of side chicks, sex is FOOD to men, just as they like to eat good food on the table, they also like to eat good food in the bedroom. they don’t get tired of asking when they need it, you have to be ready as a wife to give it except you need someone to help you out in that aspect of your duty, and trust me you don’t wanna try it. Yes, after the whole day’s work and chores, we get so tired and we just want to sleep, but then HE will come up with his wahala, it can be frustrating sometimes, it can be annoying, like “didn’t he see me working since morning? Am I a machine? Can’t he just see that I’m tired? But then, it’s a sacrifice we need to make to keep our home intact. I’m not saying it must be everyday, of course there are days when we will feel too exhausted to lift a finger, he will understand.

When you ask some men why they cheat, they tell you my wife is so poor when it comes to bed matters, don’t just lie down there like there like a log of wood during the action, don’t press phone when your hubby is trying to get your attention, give it all you’ve got, satisfy him, do it the way he wants it, tell him you love him, whisper sweet words to his ears, anytime he’s not with you, give him something that will make him wanna run home to you, learn to occupy his mind, make him want you more and more and always keep yourself clean and nice, if you’re the lazy one on the bed, you’re always having headaches when your husband needs you, you better UP your game before side chicks kick you out of that paradise.

Nb: Like I said earlier, this post is to help women/wives to get some facts as to why husbands cheat and what can be done. Thanks for reading till the end, I appreciate.

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