Will My Spouse and I Still Be Married in Heaven?

Will My Spouse and I Still Be Married in Heaven?
Will My Spouse and I Still Be Married in Heaven?

When I go to heaven, will my spouse and I still be married to each other?

Even though the Bible isn’t always clear about what heaven is like, Jesus makes one thing clear in the Gospel of Luke: even if we get married on earth, we won’t stay married to that person in heaven.

One might wonder why this question is even being asked. When you think of all the things you might wonder about heaven, a spouse might not be the first thing that comes to mind.

But it makes sense that Christians might be curious about this. Many Christians have lost their spouses and want to see them again in heaven.

Others may have been divorced (or have been divorced more than once) and wonder who they would be married to in heaven. Or, along the way, some people have gotten married again. Does that mean they are married to both of their spouses? What would happen?

But when the Sadducees asked Jesus about heaven, they were thinking of something else. They asked the following question:

If a man’s brother dies, the brother would get married to the brother’s wife. The brother who died will be called Brother One, and the new brother will be called Brother Two. Judeo law says that Brother Two must marry Brother One’s wife.

Brother Two dies, so Brother Three marries the woman, and so on until she marries all seven brothers and has no children.

People asked Jesus whose wife she would be in the afterlife. Now, we have to keep in mind that the Sadducees didn’t believe that the dead would come back to life (Mark 12:18).

In order to fit in with society, they gave up parts of their Jewish identity and beliefs and became more like the Greeks. That meant believing in the idea of a resurrection. By asking this, they want to show that Jesus’ claims are stupid by saying, “See! He believes in the resurrection, but it doesn’t make sense for her to come back to life if she’s been married to seven men.

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So when they asked, “Who would she be married to in heaven?” they were trying to catch Jesus off guard. They didn’t really care what the answer was, as long as it made Jesus look stupid.

What Does the Bible Say About Heavenly Marriage?

Luke 20:27–38 shows that Jesus does answer their question.

In essence, he says that we don’t stay married to the people we married on earth. In verses 34 and 35, he says, “… ‘In this age, people marry and are given in marriage. But people who are good enough to take part in the next age and the resurrection of the dead won’t get married or be given in marriage…'”

Matthew Henry’s Commentary on the passage goes into even more detail about why this is so.

First, we have to realize that the metaphysical nature of the world to come is very different from the world we live in now. They do things in different ways.

Second, marriage in this world is used for death, among many other things. Even though that statement seems to contradict itself, Matthew Henry explains it this way. In the end, we get married to be like Jesus Christ and the church, to avoid sexual sin, and to have children so that we can fill the earth. The hole left by death is filled by the third goal, which is to have children (Genesis 1:28).

But there is no death in heaven. Sin and temptation don’t either. That gets rid of the first two reasons. Third, marriage is a picture of how Christ and the Church relate to each other. But in heaven, we won’t have to look in a mirror to see clearly (1 Corinthians 13:12). Why settle for a reflection when the best kind of marriage, the marriage of Christ and his Church, is right there in heaven? More to come on this.

Christ’s love for the church is shown through marriage on earth. Download our FREE Prayers for a Stronger Marriage guide if you want to pray for your marriage to be stronger.

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What Luke 20 Is About and What It Means

When you look at Luke 20 as a whole, it seems like several religious leaders questioned Jesus’ power and tried to trick him. In the first part, the chief priests question Jesus about where he gets his power (Luke 20:2). Second, they try to get a reason to arrest him by asking him who he pays taxes to (Luke 20:20).

And finally, the Sadducees ask him about the resurrection in the last parts of the chapters.

The whole chapter seems to show what happens to people in power on earth, even religious people in power, when they lose sight of heaven and what’s most important.

The commentary on the Geneva Study Bible seems to agree with this.

As Christians, we can get so caught up in the details of this world that we forget that heaven is very different from this one (Colossians 3:2).

We have to think about the rest of our lives. Even though God has given us a purpose on earth, our time here is very short compared to eternity in heaven (Psalm 103:15-16).

Will you still be married after you die?

If your spouse is saved, or if they were saved while they were on earth, you will see them again in heaven.

But based on the passage this article looks at, the answer to the second question is no, you won’t be married in heaven. We take part in a much bigger wedding in heaven: the marriage supper of the lamb (Revelation 19:6-9).

Jesus Christ has tied the knot with the Church. We will marry him. We will take part in a wedding and marriage that are far more beautiful than any on earth (Ephesians 5:25).

Will you love your spouse when you get to heaven?

God is love, so even if your spouse hurts you, you will still love them. Heaven is full of his glory (Ezekiel 1). We will love more in heaven than we ever did on earth because we will have new bodies that can’t sin and will be more like Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).

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We might not feel the sexual love of eros, but we will feel the brotherly love of phileo for each other.

We forget that other languages, such as Ancient Greek, had many different words for love because English only has one.

God has given us sex and eros as gifts here on earth, but the gifts and rewards he has waiting for us in heaven will be much better. (Matthew 5:12, Luke 12:33-34, 1 Corinthians 2:9).

We love our spouses, and it’s hard to think of anything better that God could have in store for us in heaven. However, as 1 Corinthians 2:9 says, God has something for us in heaven that is beyond what we can imagine.

Keeping the afterlife in mind

When I read Luke 20 for the first time, it made me feel sad. I was taught that marriage and having kids were the best things in life, so I wondered how God could top that and why he would do something like take away marriage in heaven.

But then I thought about why God made marriage possible in the first place. As was said above, he did this to show how he felt about the church. He did this to show that he and the church were faithfully and freely giving of themselves to each other (Ephesians 5).

He also set up marriage so that people could have children and to fight the desires of the flesh (2 Timothy 2:22).

We should live with eternity in mind, but we shouldn’t take the gifts God has given us now for granted. Even though we have a lot of fun things to look forward to in heaven, we can’t forget that we’re in the middle of a race that we still have to finish (Hebrews 12:1-3).

Even if we don’t stay married to our spouses in heaven, we’ll still have the best wedding of all. Christ Himself.

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  1. Aw, this sounds horrible! I want to be with my soulmate in heaven! Makes me wish there was another choice besides hell….so discouraging.

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