Your Ideal Spouse is already married: Pastor Sam Adeyemi, Find out the reason in this piece

Your Ideal Spouse is already married: Pastor Sam Adeyemi, Find out the reason in this piece

You know the challenge I see a whole lot of time with young people is they are looking for the ideal man or the ideal woman to marry. But you know what; your ideal spouse is already married. This is why some people fall in love with married people. They are yet to be married but they find themselves falling in love with married people.

You hear them say things like, oh he is such a nice man, he has money, etc. oh, she is such an ideal woman and all that. Wonderful compliments, but do you know that a lot of times, this guy who looks so perfect or that lady who looks so nice was not like that when he or she got married.

If in your vision, your husband is a CEO, the question I will ask you is this; can you recognize him when he is not yet a CEO? That is what I am talking about here. It takes a great investment to bring someone you marry to the state or level you want him or her to be.  

So many guys around keep postponing their marriages until they build mansions and have millions in their accounts. Even when some of them have a regular source of income that they could start with, but you hear them keep saying that they want to be financially stable before venturing into marriage. True as this may sound but you need to start from somewhere. Do not wait until you attend that lofty financial institution you keep dreaming of, else you will wait for eternity.

What a lady needs is not a perfect man in the present, what she needs is a man who has a vision. A man who can define exactly where he is going and what he is going to be. That is what defines the kind of wife you should marry.

Have a vision and the leadership capacity to communicate it. Be able to sell your vision to a lady.

Listen ladies, if all of your assessments about a man is who he is today, you will soon be deceived because the fact that he has a car now is no guarantee that he will still have a car in five years time. Making a choice for marriage is largely about intuition. Some people spend their entire lives thing only a out the wedding day. All their energy, finances is channeled toward that one day events. I keep telling young people that it is after every wedding that the real marriage comes. So they should rather prepare more for their marriage rather than just one day event called wedding.

That is why your greatest asset in finding someone to marry is being spiritually matured. Your ability to hear directly from God gives you an added advantage in making the right choices.

Nobody can accurately predict your future or guarantee what you will turn out to be many years from today except God. You need to grow spiritually and develop the ability to hear from God. You need to take time to pray. Catch a vision of your future and then you can marry someone who aligns wit that future.

Now, when your vision of your future is defined, your value will be defined. Your values are the things that are very important to you.

If you value spirituality, the fear of God, you want to marry someone who values spirituality or else you will end up cracking that home up right form the foundation. If you value honesty, the person should also have that same value. If you value family, your spouse should also value same. Your basic values need to align.

You may have a few differences but then your core values must align. That is why you need to grow and matured because when you are not yet matured, your values are also not defined. Once your future is defined, who to marry will be defined also. It is not every one that is a husband material for you. It is not every woman that is a wife material for you.

If as a woman you are a queen material, your husband has got to be a king material too. So it will make it easy for you to make decisions. There are guys who just can’t hang around you because your future is defined since you have discovered your purpose.