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๐“๐ˆ๐๐’ ๐“๐Ž ๐ƒ๐€๐“๐ˆ๐๐† ๐‘๐ˆ๐†๐‡๐“ ๐›๐ฒ ๐Ž๐Œ๐Ž๐๐˜

From the age of 18, an average Nigerian lady is dating or in search or love. She is already inundated with the thoughts of settling down and getting married. She is so consumed with the thoughts of dating that she forgets to live life and pursue her dreams.

Dating itself is not a bad pursuit. But it is essential that if you must date, you should at least date well especially if you are desiring to be with a partner who would be with you till the end of your life.

I have therefore drawn up few dating tips that could help you.

๐Ÿ. ๐†๐„๐“ ๐“๐Ž ๐Š๐๐Ž๐– ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐๐„๐…๐Ž๐‘๐„ ๐ƒ๐€๐“๐ˆ๐๐†. Sadly, many young ladies go into relationships without knowing who they are on the inside. They donโ€™t know their ticks, their temperaments, their love languages, their dislikes and likes. They donโ€™t know what kind of person they are and who theyโ€™re comfortable to live with.

To skip this stage of self-discovery means you would keep hoping from one relationship to the other, dating via trial and error, compromising your set standards to fit into the idea picture of every man that comes your way.

Today, this man says he does not like trousers, but because you wanna be the ideal woman for him, you suppress your likes to accommodate him. Tomorrow when you meet another man who likes trousers and does not like independent women, you squash your identity again to accommodate him, eventually leading to an empty woman who has let all of herself go in the bid to maintain a relationship.

When I was dating and knew who I was, I knew that a man who did not like certain things was a no-brainer and this did not matter if I loved him. You do not like this part of me, hell no! I move. You desire a woman whose free will you wanna take over, swerve.

It is therefore important you know who you are before you start dating. Fall in love with yourself. Build your self esteem. Be comfortable with your likes and dislikes. Own your story with your full chest.

Take a moment to be single and be at rest. Donโ€™t be scared to be single. Singleness is not a disease. Donโ€™t be scared to be without a man. There’s so much you can do being single. Bask in this state.

๐Ÿ. ๐ƒ๐€๐“๐„ ๐‘๐ˆ๐†๐‡๐“. Dating right means you date with a focus. Do not just date randomly. Do you know that you are a reflection of the kind of men you date and each dating relationship leaves some part of them in you? If you wanna date for money, date for money. If you wanna date for sex, go ahead. If yours is marriage, go ahead.


Dating intentionally is that time for you to know if you can deal with character flaws, weaknesses and fundamental values in your partner that has the potential to become huge holes in Marriage. Itโ€™s beyond the euphoria of having somebody to love and love you. It goes beyond to knowing people in their raw form – their weaknesses and true character, fundamental values and see if you can live with them in the long run remembering that people would hardly change.

๐Ÿ‘. ๐–๐‡๐ˆ๐‹๐„ ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐ƒ๐€๐“๐„ ๐“๐Ž ๐๐„ ๐Œ๐€๐‘๐‘๐ˆ๐„๐ƒ. ๐๐„ ๐‚๐€๐‘๐„๐…๐”๐‹. While it is okay to date to be married, you shouldnโ€™t also close our eyes to any potential flaws that exist with your partner.

Do not make the mistake of assuming that a dating relationship that doesn’t lead to marriage is a failed one. No! It it were so, there would not be bad marriages existing today. So a marriage is not a proof that a dating relationship is successful.

A dating relationship is successful ALSO where both parties decide they do not wanna go ahead into marriage because one or both parties found holes that had the potentials to become huge blocks in marriage, rather than become resentful or angry towards each other should they have gotten married.

๐Ÿ’. ๐๐„ ๐€๐๐‹๐„ ๐“๐Ž ๐ˆ๐ƒ๐„๐๐“๐ˆ๐…๐˜ ๐‘๐„๐ƒ ๐…๐‹๐€๐†๐’. I can write a whole textbook on red flags. A red flag can be defined as โ€œsomething your partner does that indicates a lack of respect, integrity or interest towards the relationship, which have the potential to become stumbling blocks now or laterโ€.

What can you not deal with as a person? Personally, I can not be with a man who is obsessed with submission. This is a red flag for me. I can not be with a man who does not know how to clean after himself or who is ridden with insecurities and ego. Know your puts-off. This is the essence of self discovery before dating.

๐Ÿ“. ๐ƒ๐Ž ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐ˆ๐†๐๐Ž๐‘๐„ ๐‘๐„๐ƒ ๐…๐‹๐€๐†๐’. I need you to know that red flags would not go away. They become amplified in marriage. Itโ€™s funny how many ladies think marriage would change a person. Look at it this way. Itโ€™s just a change of status not change in character or values. Nothing changed between yesterday (when you were single) and today (now that you are married).


So, stop acting helpless when you see blood shot red flags that can negatively affect your home and your marriage. Use your common sense to walk away. Know that walking away from one bad guy doesnโ€™t mean there arenโ€™t thousands of other good men in your future.

๐Ÿ”. ๐Š๐๐Ž๐– ๐“๐‡๐€๐“ ๐†๐Ž๐ƒ ๐ƒ๐Ž๐„๐’ ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐‡๐€๐•๐„ ๐Ž๐๐„ ๐Œ๐€๐ ๐Ž๐ ๐„๐€๐‘๐“๐‡ ๐…๐Ž๐‘ ๐˜๐Ž๐”. When you discover a red flag, letting the relationship go becomes a daunting task because of the lie that God has made only one man for us, and as such we become doomed if we let this one ‘seemingly good’ relationship go. May I tell you something? God has a million and one eligible men for you whoโ€™d meet your idea of a perfect spouse in your future. However, holding on to this one not-so-good- relationship makes you unable to see beyond your nose.

๐Ÿ•. ๐๐„๐•๐„๐‘ ๐ƒ๐€๐“๐„ ๐Ž๐”๐“ ๐Ž๐… ๐๐ˆ๐“๐˜. Never ever get married to anyone out of pity. If you do, youโ€™ll regret it. Several women wish theyโ€™re had married better but for one sentimental reason or the other, made a choice and theyโ€™re living with their choices. Unfortunately divorce is not an excuse in their dictionaries so they live with their choice for life. Sad, I must say. But they made their choice.

๐Ÿ–. ๐ƒ๐Ž ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐Œ๐€๐‘๐‘๐˜ ๐–๐‡๐Ž ๐˜๐Ž๐”’๐‘๐„ ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐๐‡๐˜๐’๐ˆ๐‚๐€๐‹๐‹๐˜ ๐€๐“๐“๐€๐‘๐‚๐“๐„๐ƒ ๐“๐Ž. Never! See in marriage, youโ€™ll meet other suitable that would attract you. There would several other people who would meet your idea of what a good spouse is.

And no matter how much we love our spouse, how committed we are to them, we will ALWAYS meet other men or women who would attract us. This is very NATURAL, INEVITABLE and NORMAL.
How we deal with this reality would determine to a large extent the success or failure of our marriages.

We can either live in guilt for feeling attracted to some other person asides our spouse, suppress the feelings or start an affair and start searching for fairy tale again, or come to terms with this reality.

If you go for a man whose physical looks appalls you, you’re already placing yourself at a disadvantage. That’s because your chances of being unfaithful in marriage is high. You want to always get home to be happy with the choice you made, regardless of the other suitable that exist around you.

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๐Ÿ—. ๐Š๐๐Ž๐– ๐“๐‡๐€๐“ ๐Œ๐€๐‘๐‘๐ˆ๐€๐†๐„ ๐ˆ๐’ ๐‚๐‡๐Ž๐Ž๐’๐ˆ๐๐† ๐˜๐Ž๐”๐‘ ๐๐€๐‘๐“๐๐„๐‘ ๐Ž๐๐‚๐„, ๐“๐–๐ˆ๐‚๐„ ๐€๐๐ƒ ๐Œ๐€๐๐˜ ๐“๐ˆ๐Œ๐„๐’ ๐Ž๐•๐„๐‘. Choosing a life partner is not a matter of getting a magical sense or a supernatural revelation that, “This is the one.” Its a matter of getting to know people who cross your path and evaluating them by the uncompromising standards you have established beforehand, recognizing always that you will find more than one person who meets those standards.

This is what makes finding a life partner a CHOICE in truest sense of the word. So, out of all the people you know, out of all the friendships you develop, out of the legitimate “possible” before you, you choose one person with whom you wish to spend the rest of your life. This is not a flighty, haphazard, head-in-the-clouds choice, but a deliberate, sober, feet- firmly – planted – on- the ground decision.

Its reaching the place where you approach another and say with deliberate confidence, “I CHOOSE YOU!!”

If you have not gotten to this place in your dating relationship, please do not get married- yet.

This is not an all inclusive list. But, I hope with this tips you will be able to date better and evaluate your relationship if you’re dating well. There is no crime in desiring to be with a man. But for anything I know in this world, I have a man who loves me with his entire being and continues to prove it, so I would never berate any young girl desiring love. However, DATE WITH SENSE. NO PUT YOUR BRAIN FOR DOOR AND BEGIN TO DATE.

๐—™๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜†, ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—บ๐˜† ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐—ผ๐—ธ ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—ข. ๐—”๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐—น๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐๐ข๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป.

๐Ÿ“ŒFirst she had an uncompromising set standards for herself she could never go below. It was cast in stone. You do not come close, fu**k off!

๐Ÿ“ŒSecondly, she was able to identify red flags whenever she met a potential date.

๐Ÿ“ŒThree, she made a choice. A choice hinged on several fundamental principles. These principles you’ll learn how to set yours.

There is so much to learn and read from Alero’s story that would help you date and be better.

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