When Parents don’t train their kids, the world gets messy eventually. Who suffers most?

When Parents don’t train their kids, the world gets messy eventually.
Who suffers most?

She came to the school to make enquires with her son who is 7. They walked into my office hand in hand. I greeted her with a smile and offered her a sit. I love to engage every child who walks into my office in a conversation.
I pay more attention to kids than to adult.

So I turned to him and greeted. “Good day young man ” .
He ignored me totally and behaved as though he didn’t hear me. I repeated myself again. This time a bit louder .

He looked at me and looked away. He began to move around the office. Touching everything and anything that was in sight.

I observed him.
I handed the prospectus to his Mom. He turned immediately and snatched it from her. She smiled and said…”Ray, Ray, give it back to me please”. He said No bluntly and held on to it.

She asked him to give it back to her politely again and he yelled at her and began to tear it. I watched with keen interest.

She asked if I could give her another copy and I obliged. I gave her a second copy. He rushed almost immediately, grabbed it from her and tore it to pieces.

She looked at me and said. Ray can be naughty sometimes. He turned to her, kicked her hard and said, I am never naughty.

Wow!
I ran out of patience and ordered him to sit immediately. He looked at me surprised, looked at his mom as though he was telling her to do something to me. I waited for her reaction .

I asked him to pick all the papers he had torn and put it in the trash. He said No. His Mom got to work. She picked it all and trashed it herself. She turned to me and said….he is just a kid. He will outgrow it.
And to him she said, I won’t take you to ShopRite if you don’t sit…..

He gave her the tongue out and in response she smiled.

Okay!
Cool stuff. I understood it all. She is a loving mom who never shouts, spank or punish her child for acting abnormally.

Admirable live pattern…..

BUT

Do you know that a badly raised child grows to be an adult who worries his family much more than he worries the rest of the world?

Do you know you are the person to suffer the consequences of the actions of your badly raised child at some point in their adult years?

Do you know that your mannerless child will make sure you pay for the lack of positive upbringing they had in the nearest future?

Do you know that you and your ward will be avoided by family and friends because of the negative energy you exhume whenever you come around people?

Do you know your child will make you regret and pay for the years you spent pampering and never training them to be sound ?

It may not matter how people see you now. You may be doing your child well by letting them have their way at all times but the future is near and the past will surely come calling.

YOU WILL BE THE GREATEST LOSER!
YOU WILL CARRY YOUR PAIN ALONE!
YOU WILL LACK PEOPLE TO TALK TO!
This is because you have succeeded in putting everyone out of your space with the attitude of you and your child now.

The time is now!
Begin to consciously re_direct your child. Place them on the right path. Cautioning or disciplining your wards does not mean you love them less.

I am glad I told the woman the dangers of the path she is gradually putting her son in. No one is too young or old to learn. He is not too young to be corrected!

Lets raise total children that we all can be proud of in the nearest future, may the good Lord help us all.

Pastor Bisi Adewale.