13 Questions to ask before you start dating him (Part 1)

In planning for a relationship, it is important that you actually plan right? As basic and obvious as that sounds, a lot of couples don’t have a plan. They might say they do, they might even have a wedding date, but a wedding date does not translate into a planned marital life.
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I couldn’t go live last weekend because of the pictures in this post 🙂🙂☺️, but here’s a bit of what we’ve been talking about over the last two weeks. We will finish up on Saturday.

1. Genotype: as rampant as the enlightenment on this is, there are still couples today that don’t know each other’s genotype. It’s really sad. And pls, don’t be like me 😂, when you are finding out, SEE the actual medical card. I’m not saying bobo or babe will lie to you, but all sorts happen. Confirm. I know there are exceptions, but pls don’t become so invested in a relationship that when you find out that you are ‘genotypically’ incompatible, you start the whole ‘I have faith God will change it.’ 🤦‍♀️. A number of people that pray that prayer are emotionally hopeful and haven’t had faith for headache before. There’s another person for you; the temporal pain of losing a relationship is LIGHT WEIGHT compared to the very long term pain and expense of having a sickle cell child or children.
2. How teachable is he?: believe me when I say that there are fine, educated men in 2019 who believe that women should be seen and not heard. If that kind of man asks to court you, RUN. It might seem obvious, but notice that there are FINE, educated and ENLIGHTENED women married to such men. Worapund? (What happened). I can’t explain all the reasons myself, but I know that when a man begins to meet the other needs of a woman, especially emotionally, her mind makes excuses for him. If he has really been a great guy all round, she will think it’s a cross she can carry but won’t anticipate the depth or the extent of the pain or damage it could cause. If a man is charismatic, domineering or is a smooth power player, she will even think him speaking over her head is him spitting wisdom and that she actually needs to learn at his feet.