Rev Godwin Abba while preaching on MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE WHEN EXPERIENCING UNCERTAINTY IN THEIR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIPS, DISCLOSED WAYS ON HOW THEY CAN AVOID MAKING MISTAKES DURING SEASONS OF CRISES.
HE SAID,” MARRIAGE IS MYSTERIOUS. IT IS VERY DEEP TO THE UNDERSTANDING OF THE ORDINARY MAN OR WOMAN.
THE PRESENCE OF ISSUES IN A MARRIAGE DOES NOT MEAN THAT GOD IS NOT THERE. HE IS AWARE AND SOME TIMES PERMITS IT IN ORDER TO ATTRACT YOUR ATTENTION.
GOD IS YOUR ONLY LIFELINE IN TIMES OF UNCERTAINTY.
Ephesians 5:31-33. Somebody say, it is a mystery. This morning, we are going to be looking at a subject, MISTAKES PEOPLE MAKE WHEN EXPERIENCING UNCERTAINTY IN THEIR MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIPS.
If you get verse 32 of Ephesians 5, which will be our focal scripture of today’s message, “…This is a great mystery…”
What is a mystery?
A mystery is something that is not too plain to the ordinary mind or the human mind. Something that is beyond human comprehension or human reasoning. What is hidden from the physical sight that will only take the help of God to demystify, unravel or reveal.
Marriage or relationship is mysterious. Very deep to the understanding of the ordinary man or the ordinary woman. The Bible speaking about the depth of the relationship or the connection between a man and a woman said, “…that is what will make a king go after a slave.” It is mysterious.
So because of this mystery, there are the ups and downs in marriages and the ups and downs in relationships that you get to certain points in your marriage or relationships that things begin to get uncertain or begin to get unsure or somehow unreal.
The challenge now is not the uncertainty you may be experiencing or the turbulence you may be going through or the scattered nature or the invisibility of certain things in that marriage or relationship. The issue here is how do you tackle that season?
How do you handle that season? And this is where a lot of people make mistakes. So today we will be looking at 6 or 7 mistakes that take place in this season:
1. THE PEOPLE ABANDON THEIR GOD.
When uncertainty begins to arise in marriages or relationships, the people involved tend to or make the mistake of abandoning their God unconsciously.
That is when you hear people say things like, I don’t even feel like praying anymore, this problem on this relationship or marriage is too strong. I don’t feel like praying. In short, why should I pray. If God was there, why didn’t God tackle this issue before it came up?
As long as this physical world and life is concerned, life is loaded with ups and downs. God is aware and some of them, God permits them just to make sure He gets the best of our attention.
Uncertainty in relationships or uncertainty in marriages does not make God less than who He is. It doesn’t make God bad. No! God may permit it, but God did not orchestrate it. God may allow it, but it’s not God that sent it.
A young lady was in a relationship for 4 years. Great relationship, a lot of promises were made. Family members aware, friends aware that this two people were in a relationship. And the relationship was not one that they didn’t know where they were going. They had a direction.
The direction was that they were going to end up on the altar, that they would become husband and wife. So there was already a direction and then suddenly, the marriage didn’t work again. And the lady backslid. After 4 years. And said what is the need serving God? In case you don’t know, God is your life line when drowning. God is the only lifeline in uncertainty. Daniel 2:32.
The only thing that can guarantee the result you are looking for in a situation or in a circumstance when it seems like all hopes are gone, is the presence and the power of God in that very situation.
Psalms 23. When you are faced with uncertainty, when you are faced with a cloud of darkness, when you are faced with a situation where it seems as if you are just alone, there is nobody with you, there is no man with you, you are just alone, this scripture will change your life.