I just could not place a finger on what i was not doing right. Everything I say or do seem to make matters worse. We had a lot to do yet there was a thick silence between my wife and i.
Then a father in the faith gave me the finest counsel of all times. “Son, no matter how much issues you have, make sure you do not lose the emotional warmth”.
Dear man, you are the priest of the home. You are the thermostat that regulates the spiritual and emotional climate of the family- keep it warm always.
When there is an issue, listen to her. When she pushes your hand away when you touch her, smile and tell her, “I love you when you squeeze your face”. Keep it warm.
Second, pray for your like your life depends on it. She is already physically burdened and at times emotionally burden. Pray for emotional health.
The problem we have is we want to discuss with her what we have not mentioned in prayer first.
Romance is spiritual. The romance in your home will be fired up when you do not wait for issues before you pray.
A dear friend said, “one of the goals of marriage is to make us holy”. It kills selfishness, buries ego and destroys pride. Marriage teaches patience, persistence and introduces you to to prayers!
Dear man, no matter the issue, do not lose emotional warmth. The issue will disappear easily when warmth is not lost.
Do not put the pressure of work or business or ministry on her. Drop it at the door- walk in with a smile. Discuss the issues without passing on the pressure. Eat what has been served. Savour it. Praise her.
When there is prayer and warmth, romance will flow without stress.
Husband, love your wife!
By Temi Ola.
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