HOW TO REACT IN MARRIAGE- advice to wives and wives to be

I asked a friend a question; what is the finest thing you have learnt when it comes to marriage?
Her response was simple-“learning is continuous”.
Then i asked, what is the major lesson you have learnt about conflict in marriage?
Her response was, “we always speak about issues in our marriage”.
Dear sister, your man is not the Holy spirit- he “may” perceive something is wrong (some men do not) but he cannot discern your thought.
When he asks “are you fine?” Do not say “yes” when you have civil war going on inside. Brother will carry on like nothing is at stake while you boil over.
Honestly, one major skill you must master is this: “TALK BUT DO NOT REACT”.
Reaction worsens situation. Whatever is talked about gets resolved.
Silent treatment, cold shoulders, one word answers are not marriage builders.
I know it can be difficult but it is sweeter when he feels what you feel.
Get your man to that ‘mumu spot’ and give him a “peaceful piece of your mind”. What you will get will be better than what the silent treatment can give you.
Your aim in any conflict should be to resolve issues and to inflict “feel what i feel” punishment.
Do not give your husband the work of the Holy spirit. He is already a man- do not add to the work.
Pains dissolve when issues are addressed. Do not bottle it up. Open it up. Talk about it.
If you are not talking, you will end up reacting.
God bless your home!

By Temi Ola.