While you wait for your time to marry, I will advise you do these 10 things

IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP, PLEASE DON’T FORCE IT…

For all the singles:

This morning, I will be direct with you. As a trained and certified relationship counselor and marriage coach, I use conventional methods to proffer advice. But today, I will be very unconventional for your own good.

Please don’t force anything in a love relationship. If it’s not working, admit it, accept it and end it. Shay you hear me so?

Most marital aches are a direct function of dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships that the lovers refused to let go of it in the past. So they are having a wrong marriage. Please don’t let that happen to you, OK?

When a relationship is not working despite all efforts to make it work, it simply means one thing: calling it quits. Unfortunately, many singles are deluded. Ah, love dey blindfold well, well abi. I dey sorry for you ooo) Reality and delusion are not the same. When you get married, you will know the grave consequences of being deluded about an unhealthy relationship. Delusion is self hatred. Please love yourself first before loving someone else.

If you’re still single, please don’t kill yourself because you’re still unmarried. Singlehood is not a crime or sin; it’s just a phase of your life. Please enjoy it in anticipation of your marriage. For those of us who are now married, were we not all singles before nah? Why are you harassing the singles? As a single then, I never felt inferior in the company of my married friends, colleagues or church members. Single or married, no one is better than the other. It’s Africans who are fond of mocking singles. Let me shock you: have you noticed that a British or American standard CV or resume doesn’t provide room for marital status? Do you know why? It’s because they know that whether married or single nobody is better than the other. So singles, don’t kill yourself because you’re still unmarried, ok? Your time is coming. Yes, it’s coming because God will make it happen for you.

However, while you wait for your time to marry, I will advise that:

1. You deepen and strengthen your personal relationship with God.
2. You get committed more with the affairs of God’s kingdom.
3. You add more value to your academic, professional or business life.
4. You pursue and achieve your dreams (you don’t have to be married before you can start a business, own a company, buy a car, build your house, etc).
5. If you are already involved with someone, make sure both of you attend relationship and marriage seminars and are be coached together because you’re to possess same marriage ideologies. If they are not willing or interested in being coached with you, please end that relationship immediately.
6. You read books, ebooks, articles and journals on marriage. Those of you who don’t want to invest anything money on marital knowledge, I dey pity you well, well. To buy a marriage book of N1,500 or N1,000 or ebooks of N1,000 or N500 they will tell the whole world how hard the times are or how poor they are. Please drop that mindset; it will never help you one bit. As a happily married man, I have told you countless times that I am not luckier than you’re maritally. The only difference between you and me are the extra miles I am ready to go in order to have a great marriage. My dad and I share a private library of 1000 books. Some books on our shelves cost as much as N10,000 ($30.00). So tell me how am I luckier than you maritally? Friends, I am paying the price and it’s showing in my marriage. I have written an eBook that will help your love relationship. It goes for just N500. Pay to: Joshua Akwudike, 0019775576 StanbicIbtc and WhatsApp me the proof of your payment on: 07066408298. You will receive your eBook within 10 minutes.
7. Whether you’re still searching or already involved with someone, please PRAY very well about your relationship. God must guide you, not just your feelings.
8. Please save for your wedding and marriage. As a man, if you’re yet to live on your own, please plan and save towards getting your own space for privacy and independence. Save some money for your wedding too. For those who earn very little, I will advise that you don’t spend on your wedding a sum more than your six months salary. Remember, wedding should be according to what one earns or can conveniently afford without any stress. Borrowing to wed is really unwise; make do of what you have. Once you’re married more expenses are coming. How can you have a baby that you can’t cater for? What were you thinking? Didn’t you save some money for that?

Dear singles, I have a lot to discuss with you. Honestly a lot. I am even ready to tell you what some persons are afraid to tell you. I am about to launch a first of its kind mentoring club. Please watch out for it.

In conclusion, if a relationship is not working despite all efforts put into it, my friends, I know how hard it’s for you, but end it and regain your sanity, peace of mind, happiness and life. Sometimes it’s better off being in no relationship than to be in one that is a nightmare. Many thanks for reading, commenting, liking and sharing.

See you at the top!

Your friend,

Coach Joshua