4 ASPECTS OF A LADY YOU SHOULD NOT TRY TO FORCEFULLY CHANGE.
Dear Bachelor, please note this important message because it will be useful when you get married. These are four important aspect of a lady you should never try to Forcefully change about her.
1) HER NATURE
There are different type of ladies out there, chatty ones, quiet ones, extroverts, introverts, fashinoistas, etc.
Each unique and beautiful in her own way.
Your Job isn’t to pick any lady and then change her into the type of person you like, your job is to pick a lady that is already the way you like them to be, or even if she isn’t, you can accept her that way, that’s the first Test of Love and compatibility..
Accepting someone the way they are, not the way they can be. Relationship isn’t a Project.
2) HER PASSION
Another aspect of a lady you shouldn’t temper with in the name of a Relationship is a lady’s Passions, Hobbies.
The things that give her Satisfaction and Fulfillment.
Maybe she loves Art, or Music, or Writing, Outings, you are not to come into her life and shut that aspect of her down. You’ll take away things that give her Joy.
In fact you are to encourage her to pursue her dreams and passions..
Not the other way round.
3) HER DRESSING
Many couple arguments start from this.
You knew you don’t like ladies that wear trousers and apply make up, you left all the ladies that don’t wear trousers and went to ask out one who does, after 4 months of dating, you start telling her she should stop wearing trousers and no more make up with plenty other rules. As as what na?
Any lady you like, look at the way she dresses currently, if you are not okay with it, let her be.
If you really must date her, and you think her dressing needs to change, take it slow and steady.
4) HER LOOKS
Sir, don’t force a lady into ulcer because you like them slim, were you blind?
You didn’t see her African Mama hands before you asked her out abi?
You saw her slim, you now came, and you keep shouting on her to eat seven times a day to gain weight, because you like them chubby, continue oh, is like your village people are playing with your settings.
You saw her shape, breasts, stomach, and all, the way it is, you came and you are complaining, that why can’t she be busty like Jane, curvy like Amara, have flat stomach like Ruth, my fren, is like you have spiritual problem.
Your Job isn’t to Change Her.
Your Job is to Love her.
Your love for her will inspire the change where NECESSARY and where POSSIBLE.
Source: Musa Gift