Every one needs advise and to be rightly led at all times. The life we live in is complex hence, there are some ways and activities that need be well comprehended before anyone would move along with it hence, the need to have experienced people around, to advice and lead right at all times. In respect of this, Ndepo Tv has shared a message on the advice that the male folks need before they get married. According to the cleric, the young female folks have always had series of advises being given at all times. As shared by the cleric, the male folks also need to be given advises from well informed relationship experts that would help them before they enter into marriage. It seems only the females get so many advices while the males get little or wrong advices.
Ensure you are looking for a wife to marry; not a slave to do your labour:
Ensure your mentality is set to marry a virtuous woman for who they are which is to love, and to bring out the best from them. Do Away with the mentality that you are getting married to someone who would do your laundry, cook at all times and be a baby manufacturing device for you. A good wife will do all these for you if you love her like a wife and marry her for the right reasons.
2. Ensure you are compatible in these areas
Biological: this entails medical detsilsnof your life. In this essence we have your genotype, blood group and general health.
Physical: this has to do with your physical attraction to each other. You must be sure you are attracted to the lady you wish to get married to and she also is attracted to you.
Spiritual: ensure that both of you share the same spiritual ideology and that it works fine with both of you.
Cultural: this is very important. Ensure your culture flows together. Do not plan to get married to someone that you eouodnhave negative culture clash with. This could be disastrous.
Ideology: have the same ideas. In case you have different ideologies, ensure hers is that which you could easily adapt with without future problem.
Temperament: ensure her temperamental level is such that you could manage. Do not risk having someone you cannot manager how she adapts to levels of anger, emotion and thr likes.
3. Know yourself: Know your capabilities, your unique gifts and strengths. This is purposely to be sure where you are going is a perfect place to nurture your gifts. There is a relationship environment that will snuff life out of your dreams. Ensure you work that out before marriage.
4. Ask yourself, if she will be my helper, in what way do I need to prepare myself, develop myself and discover the vision and purpose she will help me with. Nobody helps nothing.
5. Pray and seek direction from God:
This should be done before you fall head on heels in love with each other. Don’t fall in love until you are sure God is in it. It is easy to fall out of love as it is to fall in love.
6. Abhor Laziness and Dirtiness. Groom well, shave and avoid body odour. Wash your boxers and socks often.
7. Your marriage will only be a function of what you bring into it. Marriage is never on autopilot. Don’t assume that marriage will become sweet on its own. As you make your marriage, so shall you live in it.
8. No person is perfect. But make sure you marry a Lady who fears God and is teachable. Those curves and firm breasts will soon become a thing of the past in a few years of marriage.
9. Don’t say, “She will love me just as I am”. Nobody likes rubbish. Work on yourself
10. Don’t marry as a boy and please don’t marry a girl. Maturity is not about age, but about ability to intentionally, consciously and deliberately make positive decisions and exercise solid self control, after well processed thoughts.
11. Never assume you are doing a Lady favour by marrying her. You are not doing her a favour. You are the one who obtains favour by marrying the right woman.
Source: Opera News
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