HOW TO PROPOSE TO A LADY
The world may change and to crown it all, the advent of covid-19 further put tingent strain on people worldwide and this affects every tribe, culture and religion. But despite all these ,one thing that never changed is ‘PRINCIPLE’.
As much as unimportant marriage proposal seems, it is to some folks, but the truth is ,it ushers in a new phase in every relationship leading to marriage. There are some nuances that formed different coloration to different people’s mindset on the topic of marriage proposal. Such as time, ignorance, upbringing, and environments.
°TIME: we are living in a time of ‘micro wave’, simply say a time where everything is ‘fast-fast’. Always on go, people dont to take time prepare for anything they want to do. All you need to do is google it and run with whatever you can lay hands on. This time we live in, people no longer value the principle of doing things, rather they choose every possible short cut.
•IGNORANCE : Many who are in relationship today don’t even know why they have a relationship with the opposite sex. A lot of them narrow it to ‘sexual intimacy’, but it is beyond sex. Knowing what to do by a way of proposing marriage is still difficult to many lovers.
•UPBRINGING: Parenting situation currently has changed big time. We have issue where children are now parents. A child who is not up to 18 years, some 16 years, giving birth is now a trend and in such a scenario, what will be the outcome is poor upbringing. The mindset of such children towards live and people especially how to relate wih the opposite sex is often abnormal.
•ENVIRONMENT : Where we live also affect us in so many ways. We are products of our first biology(nature, secondly nurture and thridly relationship (environment). This conditioned our mindset and ways of doing things, based on the law, tradition/culture practice in such environment. What are the ‘How To Propose To A Lady’? Before we continue ,i want to particularly make known that it is principled :’the power to propose is only domicle in men and only men are authorize based on God’s standard of doing things should propose’
1. Take Time To Study Her.
The euphoria of meeting someone new and having such a mind blowing feeling of attraction will be determined by time, if that is the person you truly want to spend your marriage enternity. Dont rush, take time observe the person, listen to her, try as much as you can to stay in tune with knowing her personality, rather than focus so much on her physical qualities. Compare her character traits such as temperament, belief system,purpose, gift and align them to yours in order to compare if this will work for you.
2. Relationahip Is Win-Win And Loose-Loose Thing.
You are not sure she will acept the proposal but if she does ,that is great, but if she reject, that is not the end. But don’t too concern about the proposal reception be concern about the future. Dont let it be a do or die affair, try again if the first time fail or try another person.
3. Practice Your Proposal Before Time.
You have studied this lady and found out some hints that she will accept if you propose but how do you trick this ?.Rehearse all you will say. Do all you can indirectly to show her you may propse any time. Example ,post a engagement ring on your social media page.Ask a direct question like ‘how will you feel about open proposal’? Ask her which one do you like ‘open or private proposal’?Etc. Reason is different strokes for different folks. In that case ,you have prepared her mind ahead, and even if she had other contrary feeling about proposal ,she will be able to absorb it.
4) Tell Her You Want To Spend Your Life With Her.
This is where she will openly blow her fuse: she will either ask you petinent questions now, or right they give you an answer yes or no. But no matter the answer she gives , dont be carried away, let time pass ober the matter and observe her body language and conversations that will pop up because you willingly delay the follow up discussion on the proposal.
5.) Act Now Or Never
You have made all your findings and round of your conclusion that she is the one or not. But if she is the one fore you base on your observation, it is time to put that ring on her. How do you go about this? Simple ,target her birthday, gather some friends, let it be simple private birthday celebration you arrange for her,in unsuspected enviroment. Tell her you are taking out but walk in with her and let you friends waiting in that room,yes , give her that shock of happy birthday song and wait for her reactions.Then right there ,pull your ring do the needfull. Proposing to a lady and she accept does not gurrantee marriage will happen. Also, if there is any reason the proposal does not proceed to engagement, it is not a crime or sin. It does means that it was not meant to be. Remember the posit’broken engagement is better than broken marriage’.
Thanks for reading
Emmanuel Nse (CRC,CMM,LC, SDE) Certified relationahip caoch, marriage mentor .