There are three ways to show your wife that you love her.
I have three children and am a very busy spouse. I sometimes feel as if I have a lot on my plate. Thank God for giving me a helpmate in my wife, who is an absolute rockstar! She assists me in so many ways, yet far too often I either take it for granted or, overwhelmed by everything else, neglect to properly shepherd and love her. This post serves as a reminder to me to guard against love amnesia toward my wife as well as a warning to other spouses.
Husbands, remember to prioritize your love for your wife above all else. In these three ways, love her well.
1. Lead her with love
I want to lead her in the same way that Christ leads the Church when I say, “Lead her.”
When Christ entered the earth, he made disciples, imparted everything that he knew to them, and then set them free to carry out his mission. Throughout his ministry, he fed them from God’s Word and explained it to them. This is shown in the Gospel of Luke from the beginning to the conclusion of Jesus’ earthly career, from the moment he left the desert temptation (Luke 4:14–15) to right before his ascension (Luke 24:45, 50).
Jesus is the ideal spouse, and men should seek him for guidance (Rev. 19:7). A husband also has to guide and nourish his wife, just as he did for his future bride and continues to do so via the Word.
Do you use yours to start the word? Do you pray as a group? Do you gather as a family for devotion and worship? Why not wait till Sunday? Establish a little church in your house. Consider how you might give your wife such gleanings while you read the Bible.
Then free your wife to do admirable deeds, just as Christ freed the Church. Set her free to serve her family like the noble woman in Proverbs 31:10–31 did.
2. Demonstrate your affection for her by devoting yourself to her.
Jesus used the example of the Son of Man to support his claim that genuine greatness is found in service, saying, “Even as the Son of Man came not to be served, but to serve, and to offer his life as a ransom for many” (Matt. 20:25-28). Do you want to make a wonderful husband? Great spouses give like Christ did, and they sacrifice as Christ did. As Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, so should husbands “love your wives” (Eph. 5:25). Who is your closest pal? I hope your wife is there. No one has ever shown greater love than this, according to Jesus: “That one lays down his life for his companions” (John 15:13).
You need to give your wife a little piece of yourself each day via service and sacrifice. In order to protect her sanctity, you should bury your aspirations, your plans, and your goals. That was Ephesians 5:25’s main point.
See what it says in the next verse: “That he could sanctify her” (Eph. 5:26a). It’s interesting how sacrificingly serving your wife sanctifies you as well. It makes her holy! By doing this, you and your wife forge a holy tie. It isn’t because of what you are doing for her; rather, it is because of the oneness that your actions represent in terms of your relationship. It’s a relationship based on selfless love.
Look for easy ways to sacrifice and serve. She leaves early from work to pick up the children for her. After supper, do the laundry and tidy up. She released the washing basket from her grasp. You could wish to find out from her what would be of greatest use to her. Once you know, do those things with enthusiasm.
3.Love her by giving her praise.
Just as a kind husband loves his wife, so does God. Isaiah 62:5 states that this would happen: “For as a young man marries a young woman, so will your sons marry you; and as the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you.”
Compliment and reassure your wife on a regular basis.According to Proverbs 31:28, “Her children get up and call her blessed; her husband, too, and he praises her.” Watching their father compliment his wife teaches them how to compliment their mother. Your words of encouragement pass on a legacy of love.
Add hearty doses of love along with the affirmation. This involves both physical love and thoughtful presents and gestures. When you get home from work, bring her favorite beverage, flowers, a message of thanks, and a cup full of loving physical attention.
Love that is indescribably deep and unquenchable
This verse from the Bible, “Many streams cannot quench love, nor can floods drown it,” is one I often pray for my wife (Songs 8:7a). I want to give her that type of love, an unending, unfathomably deep love. Do you know what quenches love? The deep pool of love transforms into a dry cistern in a relationship devoid of leadership, serving, and confirming. Make it your goal to treat your wife nicely and prevent this disaster.
Prayers to Improve as a Spouse
We are here to express our gratitude for all you have done and are still doing for our marriage and our life. God, we came to you today to beg for tighter unity in our marital pact. We beg you, Father, to provide us with the capacity to support you as a unified front while allowing nothing to sever our bonds. Father, please help us to recognize and address anything that is not in line with your will so that we may continue to advance the degree of spiritual, physical, and mental oneness in our marriage. As we make an effort to seek your face every day, we are grateful and eager to witness the results of your handiwork. We appreciate all of these things and adore you. We pray in Jesus’ name. Amen! -Carlie and Michael Kercheval
Father,
I offer my marriage to you today, pleading with you to renew our desire to seek your truth—both alone and together. Please reveal to us how amazing the process of learning your word is and how much it will deepen our relationship with you as a marriage. I hope that our union will be able to withstand the flaming darts of the adversary and never end in divorce. Amen, in the name of Jesus! (Emily Massey)
Father,
Help us to turn to you for safety when marital storms arise. Wash away our egotistical goals. Help us to be there for our spouses when they are weak, when their spiritual life appears dry, when we are unable to understand their perspective, or simply when they are unwilling to make an effort to show us their side of the story. Please help us to be patient with them as we persevere in our desire for a happier marriage and improved communication. Please enable us to treat them like our Christian siblings. May you be the center of our relationship, strengthening it to weather the rain and drought of trying times. May our love for you blaze like a fire. Help us to work together to spread the gospel. All things are redeemable by the Lord. I want God to help us get along and communicate the way you would have us so that our marriage may serve as a testimony to you. That we would provide a positive example for our children, friends, relatives, and everyone else in terms of what effective communication and a strong, happy marriage look like. We appreciate that we can still turn to you when we can’t turn to our husband. Nichols, Sarah
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