HOW TO GIVE YOUR MAN PEACE OF MIND…
A man wants peace, he can do anything to have peace. Men don’t joke with peace. It’s the reason so many husbands are keeping late nights or running away from their marriages!
Some close early at work but would spend extra hours at the bar, club, hotel, wherever than go home. Why? She is choking him! She makes marriage unbearable for him. She overloads his mind and he needs some space! He wants to exhale! Take a break! Anywhere, wherever, just breathe!
If you don’t know how to give a man peace, you will choke him without knowing and send him out of your life.
Make your man enjoy coming home and your marriage will be sweeter than honey.
- GIVE HIM SPACE
Men need space after arriving at work or done with business. While you want to TALK about your challenges, he wants to THINK about his challenges.
He had faced a lot during the day, pleasing a tough boss, satisfying customers, fighting competitors, worrying about you and kids, he needs time to unwind, relax his mind, spirit, soul and body and may have no energy to talk.
Don’t see your husband’s need for quietness as rejection, see it as an opportunity to rebuild his almost drained emotion, when he is strengthened, he will talk to you.
- DON’T USE HIS FAILURE AGAINST HIM
Men hate to fail! Failure hits a man like thunderbolt! When he lost a business deal, fail at work or a major even minor set back occurs, do him a favour, save his sanity by not criticizing, judging or condemning him.
Failure is bad enough. No one likes to fail. Please, do not add salt to injury. The deed is already done. Simply let him know you understand what he is going through and encourage him.
Wives who give unsolicited advice or allow their tongues to run wild at the moment their husbands are down are pushing him out of their hearts and marriages.
Let your tongue bring healing to your man and marriage. Do not use his failure against him.
- DON’T NAG
It doesn’t work. I use to be a terrible nagger till Jesus himself did something great to my tongue! I naturally have a sharp mouth. I would correct and remind and remind and correct till hubby gave up changing altogether!
The best way to make a man do what you want him to do is lovingly tell him, encourage him, pray for him and drop the matter at Jesus’ feet, that’s all. Shouting, yelling, screaming, abusing, cursing and reporting him up and down won’t do anything.
I achieve more in my marriage being meek, sweet, humble and encouraging than all those years I wasted nagging. I wish I knew better. It’s so easy to win a man’s heart when you are humble. Humility will open a man’s door to you in seconds what pride won’t do in twenty years.
Be humble, be meek, be prayerful, be loving, be sweet, stop nagging.
I will stop here because of my time.
Thanks for reading my articles. God bless you big!
See you next time. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.