You Have Nothing to Prove for These 5 Reasons
We have a natural inclination to want to make other people happy, and this trait may either make or break us as individuals. It is quite simple to slip into this trap, especially during times of difficulties and stress. If we are consistently telling ourselves that we have to improve, we will never stop doing what other people want us to do. People pleasers desire for outside affirmation and their stability is built on winning the favor of others. This concentration on humans interferes with your connection with God and with others over time. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and you can change your circumstances. You don’t have to worry about what other people think of you or live under the “tyranny of people pleasing,” as Joyce Meyer put it. I’ll give you five examples of why you don’t need to prove anything.
Being Turned Down Doesn’t Make You Who You Are
Fear and self-judgment may creep into our lives and leave us feeling as though we need to prove something to others. It might be self-inflicted or the result of external factors. Regardless of its cause, what occurs is that we internalize these worries and think we are not capable of being loved or adored. In other words, when we feel rejected, our sense of worthlessness grows until we stop giving it fuel. So, tell me, what need I do to accomplish this? Realize that you are not limited in who you are or what you can do because of the opinions of others.
Develop Your Own Benchmarks
The adversary takes pleasure in luring us far into the psychological and spiritual wasteland. He uses individuals as pawns to divert us from focusing on the Lord and His promises to us. Instead of beating yourself up for not seeing your ambition come to fulfillment, take it as a success that you ever tried it and move ahead. You may feel like giving up the battle because others are urging you to, but you shouldn’t. Remain firm in the knowledge that Christ strengthens you, and you will be able to withstand the onslaught of criticism from others. Don’t base your sense of accomplishment on where you placed.
You Can Feel Confident Without Anyone Telling You Anything
Most validation is faulty. If Jesus or Moses lived for validation, we may have never heard their stories of endurance and faith. It’s human nature to take satisfaction and self-assurance from the approval of others, but it’s also a human folly to rely too much on such external rewards. Find achievement that matches your own ideals to side-step this trap of trying to prove yourself to others. The external approval is icing on the cake if you build on your core principles of fairness, love, and kindness.
It’s impossible to make everyone happy.
We worry that our survival depends on everyone else being just like ourselves. Not only is this a false belief, but this is far from reality. What occurs is we tend to over commit and take on too many responsibilities so we don’t disappoint people. This might be at a house gathering, in a religious setting, or between coworkers. When discussing the characteristics of humans, there is a proverb that proves accurate. As Abraham Lincoln once observed, “You can please all the people part of the time, and you can please some of the people all the time, but you can’t satisfy all the people all the time.” The takeaway here is that you have the power to limit your exposure to stressful situations by saying “no.”
That Which You Consider Achievable
We’re all here because we want to succeed and grow. When we are overwhelmed by signals that we have to excel the way the world expects us to, it creates a fake narrative. To put it simply, we can’t expect everyone to have the same set of skills and abilities; people just aren’t created equal. Adjust your personal bar or definition of success. Only when you’re truly proud of what you’ve accomplished will you give it your all. This perspective will free you from the burden of conforming to the absurd expectations for achievement that pervade our modern society.
Having less of a need to worry about what other people think of you and stop trying to satisfy them will allow you to take more control of your life. Even if this has been a persistent issue, things can improve. Decide that you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Your relationship with God and your life in general will soon seem more freeing.